How can you find your love? 

By doing each day that which is most important to you. No compromise. Be clear and bright about who you are and what you are about. Be prepared to spend the rest of your life alone. Then look out. Your love will walk right into your life and exclaim: "There you are!!! I have been looking for you." 

It was a long road looking for the right person to share my life. I almost married the wrong person a number of times. Luckily each time a little voice inside whispered to me that things could be better. Finally as I was pushing forty I discovered what a union of two people really means to me.

Imagine being a young child. Now imagine that you have to cross the Grand Canyon. Imagine a footbridge, three feet wide, made of concrete, spanning the gaping expanse that lies before you. Now imagine walking over that bridge without the help of a railing. Scary thought isn’t it. A young child would likely end up on its hands and knees, paralyzed by the fear of falling before it ever reached the other side. 

Now imagine the same bridge with railings, three feet high, strong and made of iron. Same bridge, same Grand Canyon, same view, same gaping expanse, but much less fear. Now the child can run and jump and skip across the bridge in safety. The railing has not diminished the child’s movements but in fact has set the child free to explore, always relying on the security of that railing to keep it safe from harm.

That is what a parent offers a child. A railing for the bridge of life for the first few years while the child learns how to cope with the world. As long as that railing is strong and immovable the child can feel free to lean on it and look over the edge to explore forbidden and dangerous territory with the knowledge that the railing provided by the parent is there to prevent it from going too far.

Then the teenager discovers that the rules that made up the railing were contrived by the parent and starts to rebel and tear at the railings until at last in early adulthood those childhood railings have been dismantled. Although by now the child turned adult has become stronger and braver she must now face the dangers of the Grand Canyon once again without a railing. He might become daring or cautious but somewhere in the back of his mind is the constant fear of falling.

This fear manifests itself in many ways but always has the undercurrent of having to prove yourself and your competence to the world around you. Until, that is, you find someone who accepts you and loves you just as you are. This unconditional acceptance usually happens in later life. First we must learn to unconditionally accept ourselves. Then we can recognize someone who accepts us unconditionally as well.

Knowing this I then realized that there is one person, the most important person in the whole world, who must offer us that kind of unconditional acceptance. And that person stares back at us every morning in the mirror. That's right, we heard the old cliché before, it starts with your self. But you know what? It really does. The time of my life that I truly came to realize this simple fact I call my eureka years. This was the time when I boldly explored my inner self to understand what makes me tick and why I am the way I am. It was a time that I received inspiration from two trees in Vermont growing out of a rock crevice. It was the time when I learned to love myself and to love life by myself. It was also the time when I came to the realization that Love is a verb!

Not long after that I met a human being who manifested all the love in my life. She manifested my love. She is my love. That's why I call her: My Love. 

Not yet understanding that I created her by popping my quiff of Love, the first thought that came to mind was "So there you are!!" The next one was "I missed you!." I had always felt her presence but never shared her reality. It was as if we had been apart on separate worlds or in separate realities for a few million years and finally re-connected. It was so natural. From the very first moment it was hard to tell where she ended and I began. It has been like that ever since. We have been ONE for millions of years now finding ourselves waking up holding hands and grateful for another chance to enjoy the wonders of life on earth together.